I was a single mom for the first few years of oldest child's life. My son was my best friend, and he changed my life. I was both his mom and dad. After a few years, and against my better judgement, I married his father. We had middle child a few years into our marriage. It lasted ten years. I left for many reasons. In the end, I found my soulmate, and we have a beautiful family. 
     We live in a society where the courts attempt to force fathers to be to be in a child's life. My husband and I were awarded full custody of oldest and middle last month. This followed years of their bio father disappearing and having no contact with them. Before granting us custody, the court was still willing to give bio dad one last chance and allow visitation  if he attended parenting classes. Luckily, he never showed to plead his case. He has never paid support. He has no idea who the kiddo's friends are. He has never called on their birthdays. He has no idea what they look like. He has caused them so many tears because they felt abandoned. Yet, the courts thought it necessary to give him another chance to be a dad. He may be a biological father, but he is not a dad.