Why is it that as children we have these unobtainable goals we believe our parents set for us, that we can never possibly live up to. Do we, as parents, set these unspoken standards that we push our kids towards? Are we too hard on them, even into adulthood? I find it impossible to just tell my parents to back off. Instead, I just push myself harder. Then, I ponder if I am doing the same to my kids.
I know that I am hard on the kiddos. I push them daily, because I want them to do well. Are they going to resent me? Am I just filling them with more Thursday night shrink appointments when they reach adulthood? Should I just lay off and let them figure it out and make their own mistakes?
I don't know, all I can hope is that when the three kids get older they get off the phone with me, they know that I am proud of them. That I know they tried their hardest and I appreciate them. I love them for who they are and I always will, no question about it. If that is true, then I have succeeded at my job as a mom.