Tutors are actually quite useful if you can afford them. It means your kids are forced to study without you having to do the forcing. All you need to do is find the tutor and pay the bill. You’ll actually find that they are quite well priced these days. They are incredibly beneficial when you’re working towards admissions into college. Typically, you won’t need to tutor a kid in every subject. You will just need to provide the extra help in subjects where they are struggling. As someone who has used tutors for her kids, I can tell you you’ll be pleasantly surprised with the results.
I’ve always preferred the carrot over the stick but hey, sometimes you have to call a donkey a donkey and treat it like one. Or a kid a moody annoying brat. I find grounding is the best form of punishment to get a child to study but don’t be surprised when it doesn’t work. After all grounding isn’t really all that effective anymore. If they have a laptop that they need for studying, they can access social media and still chat with their friends instead of learning trig. Remember trig? I hated it.
This is quite effective if you know how to do it. I tend to resort to making the curfew later. If my kid does really well on a test, they get to stay out for an hour more. If they fail and it’s due to lack of studying the curfew stays the same. It’s a positive reinforcement model and it can work wonders. Or, it can backfire horribly when you’re kid gets ten As in a row and is suddenly allowed out until 3 am!
Can you condition a child? Well, you can when they’re younger with a healthy mixture of rewards and punishments. Whether it would work with a teenager, I’m not sure. But it’s worth a shot isn’t it? All you need is a water spray and a box of chocolates!
My final piece of advice is never to push a child too hard. We all have our limits. If they are trying their best at school, that’s all they can do. No amount of you pushing them will get them to do better. But perhaps you can work on different methods of learning if they are having difficulty remembering information.