Parenting is a wonderful, fulfilling, rewarding experience that teaches us a love that we would scarcely have felt possible before our children were born… But it’s also hard. Incredibly hard. The daily trials of parenting from the seemingly endless cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping and ironing to the frustration of dealing with our kids when they get stubborn would be taxing for anyone, but when you are in the thrall of mental health problems, it can be virtually impossible to muster the energy to climb out of bed and attempt the mountain of tasks that is parenting. Yet our kids think that we’re unassailable and the feeling that we might be letting them down can only exacerbate matters. In light of this week’s World Mental Health Day, we’ve compiled a survival guide for parents experiencing difficulties with their mental health.
Educate yourself
     Before we talk about how you can help reconcile your mental health issues with your parenting, you owe it to yourself to better understand your own condition, whatever it may be and avail yourself to the plethora of help that’s out there. You’ll find that the more you know about mental health in general and your own condition specifically, the better equipped you’ll be to have a frank and open discussion with your kids. Many people even find that better understanding their own conditions equips them to help others in similar conditions and go into counselling or caring careers. While you can study a master in school counselling online, simply liaising with a mental health professional and researching your condition online can give you a great headstart. You should also check out the help available at Parentingwell.org, a website specifically for parents experiencing mental health issues.
Talk to your kids
    You may be apprehensive about opening up to your mental health problems to your kids, but an open and honest dialogue is always the best way to broach the subject. Children are very astute and perceptive, and well attuned to the emotional fluctuations of those around them, and it’s better to be frank about the subject when your children are cognizant enough to understand it rather than leaving them to guess. Children, after all, have a worrying habit of internalizing their anxieties and the last thing you want is for them to blame themselves for your apparent upset or distress.
If you’re at all unsure of how to open up this dialogue it’s a good idea to talk to a mental health professional about the best way to do this.
Expectation management
     Children can react in a wide range of ways to any form of vulnerability from their parents (whom they tend to assume are unilaterally indestructible). Your children can react in a number of ways and it’s important to be prepared for any eventuality:
  • Anger

  • Guilt

  • Shame

  • Responsibility

  • Anxiety

  • Relief

  • Supportiveness

    You know your children better than anybody and you may have some idea how well they will react. Over time, however, even if their initial reaction was negative they will eventually come to terms with, and be supportive of, your issues. 




 


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Many people are suffering from the mental health issues. When any person is suffering from the tension situation and then they cause the mental health problem. The Doctor always suggests to bear the ability to bear the every tense situation in your life.

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