It may take a little practice for you to learn to take a step back when necessary. Become more aware of the times you start to overreact or panic when your kids are doing regular things that kids do. Take a deep breath and ask yourself if you could be handling the situation differently. The thing is, if you don’t take a step back, you’re going to hinder your kids lives in many ways. You will hinder their ability to make decisions, you could make them lose confidence in themselves, and they could end up relying on you for much longer than is healthy.
If you take a step back and allow your kids some room to actually be kids, you’ll find they start to shine. They’ll feel more confident, learn to trust their own choices, and will show them that you believe in them. To kids, it doesn’t matter what you say; it’s all about what you do. That means you can tell them you believe in them all you like, but if you’re not proving it with your actions, they’re not going to believe you.
Don’t panic; taking a step back like this doesn’t mean you’re abandoning your kids or failing to take care of them. You may still need to step in when necessary. You should still ensure they wear the right protective clothing, and that your home is properly set up to keep them safe. Child proof your house inside and outside. Make sure pests like squirrels, bugs, and racoons aren’t becoming a problem. Know that raccoons are excellent climbers, and squirrels can chew through most things, so you’ll want to take precautions to keep them out of your garden. Providing you make the environment safe for your kids, you shouldn’t have to worry when they’re playing outside. Depending on their age, supervising them may be necessary, but that doesn’t mean you need to micromanage everything that they do. Let them play their own games. Let them make things up as they go.
If you worry too much about your kids, you’ll probably find out your stress rubs off on them and they become natural worriers too. If you want the best for your kids, you need to trust that they really are stronger and smarter than you think!